Weekend Coffee Talk: Mind, Body, Books & Business (#5)

Whew! Apologies for going MIA on you — I spent the last two weeks celebrating my brother's wedding in CA then moving apartments in NYC, up to my neck in boxes and calls to Time Warner. At last, settled enough to bring you the latest round of fodder for your Weekend Coffee Talk! But first, a few wedding pictures just for fun. It was a gorgeous event shared by an amazing gathering of family and friends, and I could not be more thrilled for my brother and his wife (wife! they grow up so fast!). I am absolutely convinced we won the in-law lottery :)

Wedding Weekend in Photos

First up: me and my baby bro on the left; on the right, me and my grandmother, the matriarch of our family who had an incredible marriage of 61 years to my late grandfather Harold, may he rest in peace. Jenny and Tom; Grandma and Jenny

In a spontaneous move after they said their vows, my brother literally swept his beautiful bride off her feet to take her back down the aisle. Way to put those 6'4 former UCLA football player skills to use!

T & G coming down the aisle

T and G Wedding

My brother and his wife dancing through the wedding party tunnel for the reception:

T and G entering the reception through the wedding party tunnel

Congratulations to T-Bones and G-Bones!! It was an honor to help you ring in the big day :)

And now onto the weekend round-up . . .


"Change does not happen when you are relaxing on a big arm chair overlooking the ocean.


It happens when you are hungry, thirsty and angry. Change requires motivation. It requires restrictions. It needs frustration.

So if you are sitting on a big chair with a cup of tea wondering why your life is not changing . . . get off that chair."

—Christina Rasmussen, from her recent post The Chair


"To Kaptchuk, the placebo effect is brought about by much more than sugar pills and saline injections. It's about the whole "drama" or "theater" of medicine--essentially the context of the encounter between patient and physician--as much as treatment itself. "The placebo effect is the effect of everything surrounding the fake pill, or the real pill," he says. "It's the compassion, trust, and care. It's the ritual and symbols. It's the doctor-patient interaction."

—Fast Company, The Placebo Effect is Real


"Don’t be afraid of what people think. For each single person you worry about, deduct 1% in quality from your writing. Everyone has deductions. I have to deduct about 10% right off the top. Maybe there’s 10 people I’m worried about. Some of them are evil people. Some of them are people I just don’t want to offend. So my writing is only about 90% of what it could be. But I think most people write at about 20% of what it could be. Believe it or not, clients, customers, friends, family, will love you more if you are honest with them.  So we all have our boundaries. But try this: for the next ten things you write, tell people something that nobody knows about you."

—James Altucher, 33 Tips to Being a Better Writer


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