Weekend Coffee Talk: Mind, Body, Books & Business (#4)

Haaaappy Friday! Some interesting links to go with your morning coffee (or tea) this weekend, but then again, shouldn't we all be outside enjoying these last dog days of summer? New York City has been gorgeous, and I'm heading to Malibu next week for my brother's wedding. I couldn't be happier for him and his beautiful bride — I am convinced that our two families won the in-law lottery. Nice work T-Bones & G-Bones — can't wait to celebrate with you in one short week!!!

And before we jump in, today on Life After College I share my thoughts on why you don't have to love your job today. I'm leading a two-hour hands-on career planning workshop on September 11 for those of you ready to strategize about what's next.


"Metaphorical thinking — our instinct not just for describing but for comprehending one thing in terms of another, for equating I with an other — shapes our view of the world, and is essential to how we communicate, learn, discover, and invent.

Metaphor is a way of thought long before it is a way with words.

This is one of the marvels of metaphor. Fresh, successful metaphors do not depend on conventional pre-existing associations. Instead, they highlight novel, unexpected similarities not particularly characteristic of either the source or the target — at least until the metaphor itself points them out."



  • What’s Your Definition of Success? Jennifer Racioppi summarizes a conversation between Oprah and one of her guests (an author who earned then lost millions) on money as a proxy for "inner" wealth:

“The money is a metaphor and always is a metaphor for your true worth. To me, you handled the money as you saw yourself… The money and the acquisition of the money was all a metaphor for worth . . . for true worthiness. True success is the feeling of reward and self respect that you feel for yourself.” —Oprah, via Jennifer Racioppi

"Successful entrepreneurs achieve hero status in our culture. We idolize the Mark Zuckerbergs and the Elon Musks. And we celebrate the blazingly fast growth of the Inc. 500 companies. But many of those entrepreneurs, like Smith, harbor secret demons: Before they made it big, they struggled through moments of near-debilitating anxiety and despair--times when it seemed everything might crumble.

Until recently, admitting such sentiments was taboo. Rather than showing vulnerability, business leaders have practiced what social psychiatrists call impression management--also known as "fake it till you make it." —The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship

"One reason entrepreneurship is so amazing — and one of the reasons I recommend it to everybody — is that unlike most other career paths, it is the purest lens for looking at yourself. If you're in a big operation, you can blame the surrounding environment. When you're starting your own company, it's just you. There really is nothing else. So you have to take that medicine at its purest form, which I think matures you as a person faster." —Dane Atkinson

"These (literally) childish plot devices are eerily similar to the popular conversations surrounding career planning. The passion culture tells us that the key to an extraordinary life is to look deep, be true to your inner passion, and courageously ignore the naysayers as you pursue your dream.

If you study real people who build remarkable lives in the real world, you find their paths are more nuanced, more complicated, and usually quite a bit more interesting. These paths tend to involve quite a bit of hard work — much of it conventional — and don’t tend to involve a lot of bold resistance to the status quo. (Society, it turns out, doesn’t care what you do for a living. It cares more about how well you do what you do.)" —Cal Newport

Just for Fun

Awesome, funny, candid stories and personal philosophy in this SiriusXM interview between Jerry Seinfeld and Howard Stern — get comfortable, it's 90 minutes long.

Jerry Seinfeld on success, practice, anxiety, creativity, awkward early days, the "slog through the sewer" and much, much more (via Mitch Joel):

"I'm never not working on new material. Ever. Every second of my existence I'm thinking, 'Can I do something with that?'"

"The blessing in life is when you find the torture you are comfortable with. That's marriage, it's kids, it's work, it's exercise. Find the torture you're comfortable with and you'll do well. You've mastered that, you've mastered life."

"When you're really evolved you can just do things. Stop talking about it." —Jerry Seinfeld

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That's it for now . . . have an amazing weekend!