March Coffee Talk: Mind, Body, Business & Books (#31)

Forget March Madness, I'm all about Momentum this month. In my last post I mentioned the free 21-Day Momentum Safari that kicks off next week...will you be joining us? I am burrowed away working on turning in a revised first draft of The Pivot Method (due in just a few short weeks!) and have had to seriously practice The Art of No. Not just getting clear for myself (which is half the battle), but communicating my "no" in a concise, friendly way . . . without layering guilt and excessive apology on top.

*If you have a story to share about testing the waters of a big career change with small experiments first, either inside a company or your own business, please share it with me here

To preserve my own sanity while working on the book and the private community I will be launching in April, for the better part of this year I have actively de-prioritized 90 percent of what fills my email inbox.

And you know what? It feels pretty damn good. I stopped being a slave to the little dopamine hits of reading and responding to everything that came my way. I realized how little was truly urgent. I could hear myself think again. Ahhhhhh. Big, glorious exhale.

Channel the Crab: Shed the Shell You Have Outgrown

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Day 9 of the Momentum Safari asks:

  1. What are 5 habits that are no longer serving you?
  2. What are 5 things you want to say no to this month?
  3. From author Penney Pierce: If you had an extra day for yourself each week, what would you do that doesn’t involve the concept of “should”?

Two great articles on The Art of No kick-off this month's round-up—big thanks to Elisa for sending!


#3. Raise standards. Say no to anything less than great.

Every person that doesn’t rejeuvenate me and make me feel better, say no. Blacklist them. Banned. Not allowed in, not even for a minute. No explanation needed. No compromise. No favors. Done. Gone.

More fountains, less drains.

Every thing I’m doing that isn’t good for me. Every thing I’m eating or drinking that isn’t making me more healthy. Stop. Say no.

This even means saying no to half-ass conversations that are not whole-hearted and unconflicted. People that are “fine” and I “kill time” with, but don’t actually love and actively enjoy? Nope. Not good enough.

Doing this gave me a huge feeling of self-worth. Setting the bar really high for something to take my time.

It means more empty time, but that leaves room for POSSIBILITY!

Empty time has the POTENTIAL to be filled with nourishing and awesome new actions and people, whereas filling it with half-ass things and people kills all that potential and possibility."

—Derek Sivers, Getting out of a bad place


"The typical order at Chipotle has about 1,070 calories. That’s more than half of the calories that most adults are supposed to eat in an entire day. The recommended range for most adults is between 1,600 and 2,400."


"Because this is America, we hope for better. But we aren’t hung up on our tendencies to fall short. A Boothian observer of the U.S. would notice its capacity to overpromise and underdeliver. Like many Enlightenment-born nations, we declared our principles at the start—liberty, equality, the pursuit of happiness—and trusted that any friction among these ideas would be sorted out, eventually, in the churn of civic life. The trust continues. Progress is slow. While Nordic people have made the best of what they have, Americans persist in gambling on something better, and yet settling for something worse.

For that reason alone, perhaps, it’s hard to envision the Nordic model ever finding a home on these shores. American life is like the American diet—equal parts hopeful and negligent, with something sweet and bubbly on the side. The practicality and the balance of the Scandinavian way, the meat and grain and vegetables of it, isn’t what we truly want, though we would gladly wish a meal like that on anyone else. Nordic life falls short of our most vaunted ideals, yet in the end draws very close. It is almost nearly perfect, and, for Viggo and his friends, that’s good enough."

Northern Lights: Do Scandinavians Really Have It All Figured Out?


That's it for now . . . see you on safari next week!